Many have been said and done on how to create a stable and long lasting relationship. You can find lots of resources online that provide valuable information to you to nourish your relationship with your loved one. This time though, the other side of the coin will be revealed.  In this post, you will be given a detailed view of the top 5 relationship breakers and why they came to be. This article can help you gauge your relationship and assess what sort of actions you can take to avoid having these awkward moments in your relationship. Knowing what can destroy your affair is as important as knowing what can make it linger….

Ignoring Relationship Red Flags

Unfortunately, lots of people ignore those messy feelings or red flags that can really effect on your relationship with your love one. People usually ignore these red flags because they think that they can not change them, but by kicking these red flags away from your relationship does not always guarantee that you will have a stable relationship because these red flags can prove to be biggest deal breakers for you and can hit you back in your butt. So, why not face them bravely! Here are some relationship deal breakers red flags that most people ignore:

• You begin to compare. Suddenly, you find yourself comparing your old situation to your current. Worst is you begin to tell your partner that it’s better before than now. You tell wonderful thoughts and share wonderful moments you had before and you let your partner feel that you miss those things.

• You miss your ex and plan to get in touch again. This could be the worse thing to happen. Communicating with your ex may mean you want a closure or may mean you want to give it another try. If you are really healed of the past, you won’t entertain that thought of communicating with your ex.

• You go to places where you usually hang out before. You are really not over it. Spending time going to those places means you still miss your ex. Even if you tell yourself that it’s nothing, there will be a point where you will begin to remember the past when you go there and that is a clear indication that you are still not over your ex.

Too Much Familiarity

While lack of communication may be in your list, too much communication can also be a threat. It’s understandable if you are often together at the first 3 months of your relationship; but as you mature, you must understand that too much closeness can be a danger. There will be too much familiarity and the thrill is being neglected. In a relationship, there should be this sense of thrill always no matter how long you are together. Remember, if you have plans of settling down, you will spend the rest of your life together. If before marriage you are always together, seeing each other day to day, you might end up getting tired of each other.

Too much familiarity ends to common fight. Because you are already too much familiar with each other’s attitude, you expect a lot from each other too. You expect to be always understood even if you seem unreasonable and same goes with your partner.

Too much closeness can also make extraordinary moments to something ordinary and plain; like celebrating anniversaries and other important occasions. Because you already knew what’s going to happen, everything becomes a routine.

Even the people around you whose suppose to give inspiration to you as a couple may just treat every moment plain and simple, everything looks ordinary and a routine type of work to you.

Things can get worse for you if both of you are working in one building, and living in same area; you don’t have a choice but to see or be with each other. If this is the case, make sure you do something creative so that you don’t lose the spark in your relationship.

Immaturity

Relationship is not all about love. It is not all about flowers and chocolates. It is not all about dating and watching a movie together. Being in a relationship means being with someone you love yet is totally different from you. You are still two different individuals connected by love for each other. You must be mature enough to accept the differences and do things to meet both ends. Though it’s a cliché, I will still write; “It takes two to Tango.” Not because you are the girl, you will act like a queen and demand things.

Maturity doesn’t come with age. A mature relationship accepts, understands, and complements. There are new couples who can handle a relationship like a pro. Also, there are those who are together for long yet do not know how to respond maturely when a conflict arises.

This does not mean you won’t fight anymore. This is just to say that if you are in a mature relationship, you won’t be arguing with petty things anymore. Yes you may encounter problems, but since there is maturity, you can face and solve the problems without hurting each other.

Another sign of maturity is accepting faults, asking for forgiveness, and talking over so the mistakes can be avoided next time. Whenever there are arguments, you talk it over so it won’t happen anymore. Though it may still happen, you know how to face those conflicts.

Immaturity kills a relationship. It can ruin your character eventually ruining your affection for each other, until everything is destroyed.

Everything Based On Feelings

One piece of advice: Do not enter a relationship just because you are in love. Sooner or later, the love may dwindle. If that happens, the relationship also dwindles. If your relationship is not just based on feelings, but rather based on character and perspective, you are in the right direction. God created our mind over our heart. This means that we have to use our brains first before believing what we feel. Our feelings can deceive us so we need our minds to help us decide on things.

If everything is based on emotions, you may be overestimating or underestimating matters. Most of the time, wrong decisions are born at the peak of a strong emotion. Whether it’s positive or negative emotion, never rely on it. Make sure you contemplated on it first before you turn it into a decision.

Relationships that are based on feelings alone are more likely to end sooner. Feelings change from time to time. You may find yourself falling in love with a new person, falling out of love, and falling in love again. So make sure you enter a relationship with your entire mind and heart. Then while inside a relationship, nurture it with the right perspective and not based on emotions alone.

Cheating

It’s ironic because everybody knows that cheating is a big NO-NO in a relationship yet, most fall into this trap. If you will think of cheating in a relationship perspective, you’ll find many reasons behind it. However, there can only be one major basis; you don’t feel that spark anymore that you try to find another outlet. Sad to say, many resort to this trap without considering patching things with the partner. Note that this is a cycle. It goes on and on as if you are restlessly searching for the one who can really meet your needs. Cheating is common to relationships with no firm foundation. This is common to relationship based on attraction only. The affair is so shallow that you can easily get out without sweat.

In order not to cheat, you must have an open communication with your partner. It pays that your partner is not just a lover but also a confidant with a mature mind to understand circumstances. With this, you can easily tell your partner what’s going on with you so you can find ways to treat the problem together.

Conclusion

Being in a relationship is not always in bliss. Yes, there are happy moments but there are also those moments where conflict arises. Problems are inevitable. However, if you have to right attitude then your relationship is bound to last. Your differences nor your similarities must always be taken into the proper context as a sign of respect to your other half.

Taking care of your relationship should be innate and must not be dictated by any situations. There should be a mutual collaboration between partners in achieving and maintaining a beautiful love affair.

With the above top 5 relationship breakers, may you be guided on what to do when you feel you are encountering them. Whether you are currently in a relationship or in a relationship that is on the rocks, or maybe just about to enter one, it is highly recommended that you always have an open communication with your partner and not focus on discussing feel good issues only.

Again, the purpose of this post is not to alarm you or frighten you. Rather, this is to make you realize that beauty of a relationship is not difficult to achieve as long as you are free of past grudges, have a mature mind, respect for each other’s privacy,